The Three Letters

Instead of playing the blame game and focusing on "WHO" is at fault, explore asking "HOW" to solve the problem.

Pattern

Fixating on "WHO" often leads to frustration and hinders progress.

Option

Asking "HOW" allows you to actively seek solutions rather than dwell on the issue itself. By thinking about "HOW," you actively seek solutions, and you are more likely to arrive at mutual understanding in most situations.

Action

If you notice a friend struggling, ask yourself, "How can I support them? How can I contribute to the solution? How can I be there for them?" Focusing on “HOW” strengthens relationships as you become a source of support and empathy - which deepens your connection with others, and enhances your own sense of fulfillment.